Little Boy Blue
raf has been too clingy lately. and although he has always been a mommy-or-daddy-only kind of boy, he had never been the type to cry whenever we would leave for work. we thought we have explained to him well why we are out five times a week to work (because work allows mommy and daddy to buy you milk, food, clothes and shoes and pay for your playroom and eventually, school). lately though, he would complain to the yaya whenever it's TV patrol already and mommy is not yet home. you see, i don't go home until 7:30pm every night because we have to wait for our carpool. even before, i haven't been the 6pm-on-the-dot mom because there are still errands to run, groceries to buy and bills to pay. when i need to stay up late because of a social obligation or get-togethers, i would let him know beforehand so he doesn't wait for me. raf didn't have any problems with that. until now.
for two weeks now, he would cry endless while waiting for me. and it so happened that ppip has to leave earlier than usual so there's an hour or two gap between his departure and my arrival. everytime he'd wake up from his afternoon nap, he'd ask his yaya if it's nighttime already so "mommy would be home soon." on weekends that ppip is out, he'd grumble "daddy's late. he's working late again. dugay muuli." ppip also said that whenever he's asleep, raf would just stay in our room, either playing or doing nothing, waiting, until he wakes up.
we find it weird because our son wasn't like that before. my mother said that perhaps, raf has gotten used to having somebody else around aside from the helper when he was in negros. my tatay is always home and my nanay goes home for lunch and logs out from work at 5pm. and andi's there so he doesn't feel left out. the word "gibayaan" is in his vocabulary now, i think thanks to the neighbors' helpers who tell him "gibayaan na pod ka raf" whenever they'd see me leaving for work.
every night before sleeping, raf would kiss my hair and cheek and playfully whine, "ayaw na work mommy." and again, i'd explain that i have to work or else, we can't afford to buy milk and chicken and fish and dvds and shoes and pay for school and well, go to disneyland to see mickey and minnie and donald and pete. if only we have a choice, it's nice to just stop working and get andi from negros and have all the time in the world to dilly-dally, go out and have fun with them. but then, life doesn't work that way for us. this time, at least. there's a house to fix and tuition fees and a wedding to save for so perhaps, raf would have to wait for another year or two before his wish comes true. 
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Annoying kaayo ang mga chismosa ug pakialamerang mga helpers oi. I'm inclined to say, "They should know better!" but unfortunately, they don't. Sakit kayo sa dughan ang inana oi.
My sister was like that daw when she was small. She would in fact run after my mom or the bus my mom is on and wail and melt into a puddle of tears in the middle of the road.
I don't mean to alarm you but I think there has been some psychological effect on her while growing up...I realized now that she cannot recall any memory wherein she felt gin bayaan sya. Selective amnesia...probably her mind's way of protecting her from traumatic events in her life when she was younger. She remembers everything except those "gi bayaan" moments.
@ delectable dee: kalma lang. hehe. raf doesn't cry when we leave but gets cranky when we go home late. i guess it's also because most of the time, he's still asleep when i go out so he gets pretty impatient waiting for me to come home.
as for the selective amnesia, im inclined to agree with that because i have a cousin who had suffered beatings from a yaya and when we ask him about that, he doesn't remember it.
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